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Beginnings and Endings

Without question fall is the season of change. To loose the idyllic warm womb of summer is a bit of a shocker, like any about-face. More so than spring, autumn steals then announces the end of summer even before the official seasonal equinox. It marks the beginning of something for many like school, possibly a move, new friends and situations. September is also a month of getting back to work, starting a new projects, gardens dying and putting things to bed for winter- suffice it to say change is the common denominator for all things in this colourful yet chaotic season.

If you are feeling nervous anticipation, coupled with a feeling of dread at this time, you are not alone. Like the gardens burgeoning with produce September’s monopoly on the month of most change, has likely stymied all your confidence and certainty. Change is a tricky state. On the one hand we often look forward to bursts of newness but only if we have articulated the details and outcome ourselves. Many of the big changes in life like starting a new job, school, relationship or living in a new city have no predictable parameters, which can throw us into a difficult tailspin. We intellectually attempt to control the change, while emotionally we will inevitably face our deepest fears and obstacles. With any significant change we are thrown right out of our comfort zone and the nervous system does not like that.

Last week I had a major change that I had not expected nor planned on. Someone whom has been with me for a long time was suddenly plucked right out of my life due to a unfortunate situation. I have been working intimately with this person for many years and although the betrayal has been hard to deal with, the more difficult piece was my emotions having to come to terms with this sudden change. I was experiencing this upset on all levels of my being. Our emotions are primitive slow moving dinosaurs and do not do well with abrupt change.

I found myself resisting through feelings of defeat, I became plagued with wanting to know why – and justifying reasons why I should give up. This went along with a lack of faith in myself and in the process that I had been thrust into. I felt at times hopeless, cynical toward all people and indifferent as to my future and my goals. I recognize this as a dangerous place if given the opportunity to run rampant and I also recognized my need to process the big change.

Luckily through the years I have seen the importance of giving time and space to some of these deeper and more intense processes. Most importantly staying in present time, allowed me the capacity to be with ‘what is’ and to reflect on my feelings now, otherwise the mind becomes obsessed with ‘what-was’. With that willingness I am sure that I was afforded the insight, just today that spring-boarded me out of the ‘Why? How? What? which will drive one crazy – toward the deeper truth of this necessary change. The fact is, there was damage being done that I was too blind to see or to complacent to act on due to my comfort. I may never have seen or done a thing till it was too late – without the universe orchestrating the change.

As many have said before me, change is the only true constant in life. It is something we most certainly need to learn to live with and ideally master for any peace of mind. We will all be faced with change; and the fear of the unknown is real – especially for the primitive nervous system and its delicate ego that seeks to protect its’ identity and the status quo, at all costs.

Our job is to reassure the emotional body through grounding and calming techniques, as we forge forward. We need to embrace grace and grit as our go-to when the going gets tough and things feel daunting. Don’t look back, except to gather awareness and insights. Learn to build resilience and tenacity through ‘mini’ acts of courage – especially in the eye-of-the-storm; this will keep you strong in the face of catastrophic or casual change and enable you to harvest its rewards. Perhaps this is what is truly meant by blind faith, you never really know what the outcome will be, yet you must put one foot in front of the other to get through the jungle. As the great mystic Rumi said: “Take the Pearl, leave the Shell behind.”

May your harvest be bountiful,

Love Mary-Jo

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Revolve, Solve, Evolve – Solstice 2016 – Forward to the Light

Blog -Solstice 2016

Whew! 2016 – quite a year. Breathe in, Breathe out, Relax, Repeat.

All of life is a great pulse, a rhythm of involution and Evolution.

Life is the mystery, magic and experience of Evolution.

The Earth and Universe breathe-in and Breath out, too.

We cannot avoid the inevitable. We are in it. We must hold fast and ride the wave and not get caught in the undertow.

The return of the light, the shift of the exhale to the inhale is the axis point. The forward thrust -the inhale, inspiration, the crashing wave, forward motion. The Light and Evolution will always be more potent that the retreat – the involution, the dark.

We must bravely ride the wave. Four years is a grain of sand in the timeline of humanity, however a grain of can cause significant distortion if not held in check.

Hold fast to what you know is true and right and keep moving toward the light. We need involution to evolve. The crucible for Solstice is to honour the tipping point, the pause. The journey of life is to continue to evolve our consciousness more and more toward embodying the light beings that we are.