At the hospital

Throughout my entire life, I always expected my mom to be that one untouchable thing, which the universe would never hurt.

My sister and I grew up with her as our single parent and we are all three extremely close, connected, and have the most indescribable love for each other. Growing up with Mary-Jo, as my mother has been something I say a prayer of thanks for; every morning I wake up and every night I go to sleep. I truly believe that soul mates are not always the people you fall in love with romantically, but sometimes when you’re as lucky as I am, your soul mate is a family member, or maybe even a friend. My mom is my soul mate. This being said every challenge she has experienced, every joy I have received, every triumph she has prospered, and every tear I have cried we have both been right there with each other doing it together. When I walked into the emergency room I no idea of the seriousness of her accident, I thought maybe she broke I minor bone. Nothing in life could have prepared me for what I was about to see. She was strapped to a stretcher her head was fastened with medical tape so her spine could remain still, she was covered in hospital blankets and an oxygen mask was over her face. Instead of looking scared, she turned her eyes in my direction, and gave me a look that said don’t be scared. Kate my younger sister explained what was going on,” she can’t move her legs, they are taking her for X-rays.” My heart dropped through the floor and the tears automatically poured through my eyes. We waited at the hospital for 4 hours that night, I was able to go and see her 3 times for brief visits. Constantly telling her what exactly is in my heart, “everything is going to be ok.” They determined that it was her C-5 and C-6 vertebrae’s that had been literally shattered, they weren’t quite sure of the damage to her spinal cord. That night they drove her to Cranbrook and then flew her from Cranbrook to Vancouver at 4am.pcitt.

Published by Mary-Jo

I am passionate about diversity, inclusion, sustainability and community. Having raised my children in a small B.C. town as a single parent, I relied on the community, my resourcefulness and the land to sustain us. We developed a market farm,built a cafe and catering business that utilized the produce, local farmers and families to thrive. As a Waldorf school parent I became experienced in biodiversity, edible landscapes and community engagement. I gained substantial skills in leadership, facilitation, project management, communication through teaching yoga and running various business's. My role as a facilitator and trainer to individuals seeking to become a yoga teacher- whom never thought that they could stand in front of a room and speak in public, gave me insight into human nature and coaching. In addition to designing and building businesses - cafés, yoga studios and national training programs, I am a student of Social Development & Social Psychology and understand the complexity and importance of social engagement. I can handle with grace most any situation, having encountered a disability later in life. Consequent to becoming disabled and through advocacy and providing peer support I have trained and acquired extensive exposure and understanding of UN principles on disability, The Human Rights objectives, theories and principles of Universal Design and the various challenges and obstacles for those affected and the relationship to various stakeholders. After 30 years of teaching yoga, my spinal cord injury and subsequent sabbatical has allowed for the integration of my yoga and more in-depth study of the Healing Arts. I have had the fortune of working with some of the best in the field of rehabilitation, Somatic Experiencing and manual therapy including Emilie Conrad, Mark Finch, Judy Russel, Rod Stryker, Carolyn Myss, Ana Forest, & Tim Miller, Susan Harper, Mariah Moser, Herta Buller and Nature.