The past and future are simply illusory.
Its been too long since I have written. For the first time during the past three months I have broken my steadfast pattern of regular communications to you. If this has left you hanging, I apologize. This is for you.
In the deep time of sorrow that surrounded my mom’s accident, I felt that the world had stopped turning, and in a very real sense it had. Our family had suddenly paused their day to day lives to commute to Vancouver from five different cities. Friends began to tune into the website and express their concern about MJ’s condition and progress. The community in Nelson came together in an extraordinary way and produced a fabulous fundraiser.
Slowly after the accident, our lives began to reshape themselves. Bit by bit, we picked up he fallen pieces, and the puzzle took on a different picture. When an accident or tragedy strikes, a certain rawness of life is exposed. People forget the petty problems and rise to a place where thinking and choices are solely made on a moment to moment basis. We connect with the true essence of life in each second. The past and future are simply illusory. The past is behind us, unchangeable (or so it seems) and the future is ahead of us, not yet existent.
When our attention focuses on any particular moment, we find the greatest meaning and peace. The present is all that we really have. MJ’s accident has taught me the powerful gift of the present.
To allow for remorse, regret, fear, worry, or attachment only takes us out of the moment. Being mad at that day on Whitewater and then fearful of what the future would hold was an emotional response but useless.
This mindset suffocates all the positivity (sic) which embraces us daily whether or not we choose to accept it. When MJ was in ICU, life was lived on a moment to moment basis. There was great amount of grief, but also a quality that permitted so much love to be present. People were rising to the occasion doing anything and everything they could to help. There was precious family time, much attention on her (and our!) healing and the constant realization of how precious life really is. We lived solely from each moment to the next. No restricted boundaries, just pure love, innocence, support and understanding.
It was the most frightening yet beautiful place I have ever experienced. As those moments trickle into the past, we are now in a time of strength, growth, and opportunity. I want to thank you all for your continued support, prayers, donations, and love. Having you be a part of this adventure has been such a precious treasure. Please know how greatful MJ and my whole family truly are.
You all make the quality of our moments golden.
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