Patience and Perseverance

Patience and perseverance are virtues, they are developed and cultivated; not an item that can be bought or bargained for.

As we rushed to the Castlegar airport at 3:10 our names were blaring over the loudspeaker, “Mary-Jo Fetterly please report to the check in desk.” I admit we had pushed the envelope, leaving all of you and sweet little Nelson was a difficult goodbye. Thankfully Amanda’s and Kate’s support and prowess got me on the airplane in the nick of time. We arrived in sunny Vancouver feeling inspired, encouraged, and again held in the arms of love; by all of you dear and generous people.

Many people ask me how my visit to Nelson was, knowing that it was my first trip home. Some of them had viewed the coverage by Global TV and others knew of the fundraising event Home Sweet Home. Quite literally the only words I could uses to express my feelings were love and pride. That is you, and I thank you for all of your continual support- and perhaps these words in a small way can express how much it means to Amanda, Kate and I. Along similar lines I was visited this week by my sister Anne and my mother Ruth. Who preceded a visit from the rest of the family just before the Nelson trip. Their continual expression of unconditional love and support is and example for us all and incredibly touching and heartening.

I spoke to a woman a few days ago who has had a spinal cord injury for 9 years. She is an inspirational woman and comes from a very similar community and family as ours. Molly Hale ironically is connected to the web we are lucky enough to be a part of in Nelson. We spoke of many things and made plans. We also discussed some more personal commonalities, beyond sharing similar communities. Perseverance and patience were the doorways through which we marked our shared experiences. I felt innocent in my early stages of recovery, talking with such a veteran whom I am aware has overcome many obstacles in order to walk and rise above her medical diagnosis of quadriplegia. My innocence was only ear marked by time and yet still the factors of patience and perseverance are present and becoming more and more important and powerful.
I accept that I as a neophyte in this new place which I reside is a fragment of what a person such as Molly Hale has learnt to endure and develop.

Patience and perseverance are virtues, they are developed and cultivated; not an item that can be bought or bargained for. Patience particularly is a quality I invite you to try on, as a skin that draws you deeper into your heart, compassion and understanding. Patience I have discovered is a quality that is very close to love and connected to living in the moment, beyond the small mind and ego. Patience takes great practice and perseverance. We are not encouraged in this culture to wait, to be still, and to be patient.

As I learn to be patient with myself in order to get an olive from the plate into my mouth, hold the phone, develop strength to move forward, and allow those who are caring for me to express their own learning and process. I expand into patience and as I do I send that prayer and the gift of patience to all of you, particularly to be patient with yourself.

Love and Peace

Published by Mary-Jo

I am passionate about diversity, inclusion, sustainability and community. Having raised my children in a small B.C. town as a single parent, I relied on the community, my resourcefulness and the land to sustain us. We developed a market farm,built a cafe and catering business that utilized the produce, local farmers and families to thrive. As a Waldorf school parent I became experienced in biodiversity, edible landscapes and community engagement. I gained substantial skills in leadership, facilitation, project management, communication through teaching yoga and running various business's. My role as a facilitator and trainer to individuals seeking to become a yoga teacher- whom never thought that they could stand in front of a room and speak in public, gave me insight into human nature and coaching. In addition to designing and building businesses - cafés, yoga studios and national training programs, I am a student of Social Development & Social Psychology and understand the complexity and importance of social engagement. I can handle with grace most any situation, having encountered a disability later in life. Consequent to becoming disabled and through advocacy and providing peer support I have trained and acquired extensive exposure and understanding of UN principles on disability, The Human Rights objectives, theories and principles of Universal Design and the various challenges and obstacles for those affected and the relationship to various stakeholders. After 30 years of teaching yoga, my spinal cord injury and subsequent sabbatical has allowed for the integration of my yoga and more in-depth study of the Healing Arts. I have had the fortune of working with some of the best in the field of rehabilitation, Somatic Experiencing and manual therapy including Emilie Conrad, Mark Finch, Judy Russel, Rod Stryker, Carolyn Myss, Ana Forest, & Tim Miller, Susan Harper, Mariah Moser, Herta Buller and Nature.