The Scales of Polarity – Finding Balance in the Chaos

“Hell Is Truth Seen Too Late” ~Thomas Hobbs

I heard an Indigenous elder speak the other day, after the 6 o’clock news had delivered its usual, catastrophic and disturbing events, currently orchestrated by questionable leaders. The elder, a native BC Chief, expressed her concern at the uncertainty within our society—from the fear and chaos perpetrated by a few  unhinged, people in power. It’s been a common term ‘uncertainty’ on  recent podcasts and on CBC Cross Country Checkup, the show before the upcoming spring equinox. The Indigenous elder, like myself, my teachers and wise ones, suggested “not listening to the news too often – if at all”, and especially to exercise extreme vigilance, to not let negativity enter your physical, mental and emotional space. It is possible to choose what and who you consume or/or listen to; choice is our individual and collective power. Our choices can include everything from our emotional containment to what we consume and how we think, feel and conduct ourselves in the world. We likely all agree—we are living in unprecedented times, and yet what precedents will we create from? If we continually choose love over fear and peace over chaos we do not give ‘the negativity’ what it so desperately wants – attention. 

This means drilling down to all of the choices we make, moment to moment and using the utmost discretion, so that we are not contributing to the problem. The Indigenous elder listed the seven principles that they live by: respect, honesty, bravery, love, truth, humility, wisdom; and she emphasized “Take care of what you can control.”

I wholeheartedly agree and will add; discretion comes from living from all of the virtues and qualities that the elder mentioned, and ensures that dignity of all, will trump confusion. (Pardon the lowercase vernacular pun.) 

Speaking of meaning, chaos: “is a state of utter confusion.” Further the Merrian-Webster notes that “chaos is the inherent unpredictability in the behaviour of a complex natural system.” Add to that the deliberate splintering of human relationships and populations into divisive, antagonistic, highly charged opponents and we are witnessing disturbing facts at play from the American White House, that are hard to believe. But believe it we must and acknowledge it we will because it is our only way to resist and stand up to and against, the destructive potential of this misguided power. In fact, on Cross Country Checkup today, Ian Hanomansing and listeners witnessed a multitude of frustrated, angry, confused and upset callers affected by the onslaught of threats and uncertainty. 

One caller in particular, an elderly woman, also experienced disbelief. She had just returned from her yearly Mexico trip where she meets up with her lifelong American friends but found herself more and more infuriated at the conversations about how wonderful and amazing the Trump administration was doing at unravelling the foundations of the constitution and the past few ‘Blue’ presidents. She was appalled at their blatant, shameless ignorance to the facts. Her silence at the dinner party was noticed however, the myriad of other emotions that she felt (hurt, fear, anger) towards those whom she thought were close lifelong friends, paralyzed her—a traumatic response of shock and utter disbelief. She left without a word, refusing their subsequent calls and requests until days later when she channeled her anger, called upon her bravery and confronted all of them and their source, the Republican Administration and Fox News. Now, at the time of this spring equinox where the night and the day are in complete balance, when there is no polarity between the dark and the light, is the time to confront: who, what and how do we shift out of balance?

There are also two eclipses this month enhancing the sense that we are in somewhat of a void between two worlds, the world we knew, and the one we will be creating out of this chaos. That is why it is extremely important to be our own heroes, to be brave and to stay grounded and balanced in the eye of the storm. Traditions and examples through time tell us that we are able to reimagine a better way to be on this planet together. My favourite mystic poet these days, David Whyte, expresses this well.

“There is an ancient human intuition that at every threshold of a human life, there is always, on the other side of that threshold, something waiting to meet us that embodies the next level of our emancipation into a greater freedom and a greater maturity: whatever courageous step we are able to take at each crucial threshold, something equally and incrementally larger will come to meet us and out of that meeting we will be able to forge a more generous and loving life.”

Be brave and strong. Take this time to learn from all of the Indigenous peoples and elders by remembering, we are creating a world for the next seven generations. On that note, I will be offering a weekly yoga, self-care, mindfulness and meditation class for Free on YouTube on Wednesdays at 12 PM, for all to join. From the ancient text the Bhagavad Gita, a quote for our leaders.

Chapter 2, verse 50:

“The person who performs actions based on (sam buddhi) the intellect imbued with the knowledge of Me, the Self, becomes free from the influence of ignorance. Thus, Arjun, you should be established in the knowledge of Yoga (samatwa yog). Maintain purity, or evenness, in your intellect. This is the only skill or technique for attaining freedom from the ignorance that keeps a person bound by the results of his actions.” ~Excerpt from Bhagavad Gita, Swami Shyam

Blessed be, 

Mary-Jo

Nostalgia, Innocence & Geronimo

Is nostalgia a feeling for innocence that we’ve lost? Or is our innocence lost if we aren’t occasionally nostalgic, fully embracing all parts of ourselves as we move through the journey of life; past, present, and future?

In the words of David Whyte, the wonderful philosopher, poet whom I am fortunate to sit with on Summer Sundays:  

“Innocence is not a commodity that is supposed to be replaced by experience. Innocence is our ability to be found by the world again and again at each new threshold in our life.”

This helps me to understand my nostalgia and the subsequent pangs of grief wafting through me, following my recent trip to Nelson.

Farewell Geronimo

Nelson is the remarkable community in the Kootenays where I raised my daughters and our animal family. Geronimo, a regal black stallion, was a noble and noteworthy member. He is symbolic in untold ways of myself and my girls during a unique time in our lives. Metaphorically, he gifted us with harnessing our own raw power. He was a living presence, an embodiment of how a powerful being can be both full of the potency of fierce life-energy and spirit, but as gentle as a benevolent grandparent. On this pilgrimage we celebrated and then sadly bid farewell to Geronimo as he crossed over the rainbow bridge. Our journey continued on with a book signing at Otter Books, and Yasodhara Ashram in Nelson.

Pilgrimage

Upon deeper and quiet reflection, as I age I encounter more of these significant passages. They all represent a pilgrimage from one place in time, one way of being, to an entirely new time and perspective. They are simultaneously disruptive, and heartening.

I had to find the spaciousness and compassion to hold the grief, as well as all the other memories moving through my body and emotions to allow my heart and senses to fully be with all of what is, what was and what may be. Assimilating all of this whilst supported by the wonderful care and companionship of David Whyte and his work, I realized that it is what we care about, that we are most nostalgic for. I came to the realization that it is through caring that we tap into our innocence repeatedly.

Caring

Caring is part of how we arrive here, get by here and leave here. Caring is fundamental to human nature and survival. We all witness how terribly wrong things may go when we don’t care for one another. Writing my book, Where Science Meets Spirit, and this blog I do because I care deeply about humanity and our collective future. I also care about you and your feedback and sincerely appreciate your support.

 

On that note, feel free to drop me a line on the website, and if you’ve read my book, please write a review on Amazon. Be sure to check my website for updates on upcoming events and book signings this fall.I will also be releasing videos on Youtube with a reading from the book and spaces for discussion. In addition, there will be practices for you so that together we may delve into the subject matter more fully.

 

Until next time, enjoy your journeyings.

 

With much love & care,

 

Mary-Jo

Celebrating Solstice 2024

Fellow travellers, 

A unique and enchanting birdsong called in to me at 5 am each morning this past week during my ambrosia hour rituals. With the increase of light in June in the North, many people all over the world — particularly the northern hemisphere will be celebrating Summer Solstice, June 21st. I love how traditions of this type go back in time before electricity, before technology, before we became so out of touch with the mystery of life. An extraordinary sunset, a life-changing solar eclipse, a fierce volcanic eruption, a novel and captivating birdsong, oh the beauties and wonders of our own sacred planet.

Touchstones & Connection

Traditions shared globally are significant touchstones of our mutual humanity and connectedness, especially those earmarked by nature like a rare total eclipse — because nature is neutral—without race, religion, dogma, opinion, or creed. Nature is always reminding us of our relationship to something beyond our mortal grasping. These awe-inspiring moments often render us small and somewhat insignificant within our human egos, to something great, something beyond even our comprehension or understanding.

 

In Greenland and beyond however, the fierceness of Nature causing awe, is also causing unsettling destruction to people’s lives.  Events out of the ordinary like an eclipse will cause a disruption in the established order of daily life. These events, therefore, have the power to make us feel small — as the locus of control is clearly not ours, but usually something outside of normal, beyond our material world.

Greenland

Rituals & Traditions

Turns out it’s ok to acknowledge our (surprising to us) identity as insignificant in relation to the great Intelligence that holds this whole spinning universe together. Of course, major disruptions may not be OK in our physical reality and that is where we need grounding, routine and ritual to mitigate feeling overwhelmed or completely devastated. Traditions celebrated through rituals can keep us stable and grounded during turbulent times.

Routine, David Whyte Quote

Most of us are painfully afraid of our own inherent, brilliance and light, that part of us—the mysterious, can only be access when the ego truly moves out of the way. That’s what happens when we practice the routine of ritual. Silence, presence and order give way to intuitive brilliance. That solitary little bird who came to my morning ritual so beautifully this week is related to Gemini represented in the month of June.  Both ask us to tune into our intuition and remain calm, curious and to balance on the fence as the observer, by practicing equanimity watching all of these events with compassion and yet a clear sense of neutrality.

I celebrate my tradition of sending out a solstice newsletter with you by the announcement of my book Where Science Meets Spirit-The Autobiography of a Paralyzed Yogi, being published and ready for reading. You can find all about my book signing events and where to purchase it on my website:  Mary-Jo – Where Science Meets Spirit

Blessings,

Mary-Jo

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